What is a pin fold? Here’s everything you need to know.
In September 2022, Olivia Wilde’s film, don’t worry darlingpremiered at the Venice Film Festival.
One of the most talked about moments at the very documented the event was playfully dubbed “spitgate”, referring to when Harry Styles appeared spit on his co-star Chris Pine as he took his place in the theatre. Pine has since declared(Opens in a new tab) that Styles “didn’t spit on me,” but that didn’t stop the internet from craving the idea.
Spitting seems to be becoming a theme in pop culture. Several recent film and television examples(Opens in a new tab) include Ted Lasso, duneAnd Succession, each exhibiting spitting in one form or another. Additionally, spitting is all over TikTok, with hashtags like #spittok (186.9 million views), #spit (488.2 million views), and #spitqueen (2 million views).
Why does this happen? Spit out the folds. People are excited as hell to spit.
Having a spit means you get an erotic charge from being spat or spit on someone. Getting spat on is widely accepted to be one of the most horrible and degrading things someone can do to another person IRL. But in sex it can be sought after and sought after and part of the game. Sarah Melancon(Opens in a new tab), PhD, sociologist, clinical sexologist, and resident expert at The Sex Toy Collective, a one-stop platform for all things sex toys, points out that the spit fetish category on porn site Clips4Sale contains over 1.1 million clips. This gives us an idea of how popular this kink is.
Additionally, being horny for spitting can go beyond the physical act of spitting and manifest as a focus on saliva. It can be done for bonding, intimacy, and even thrill play. The sex is so weird and we love it.
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So what’s the deal with pin issues? Why are we here and how can we do it? Let’s dig.
What is a pin fold?
What is a spit kink, you ask? Well, that’s exactly what it sounds like: Being in the saliva, in a sexual way. “Spitting play, or spitting, involves the use of saliva during sexual activity,” explains kenneth play(Opens in a new tab)international educator and author of Beyond Satisfaction: A Sex Hacker’s Guide to Endless Orgasms, Mind-Blowing Connection, and Lasting Confidence(Opens in a new tab). “This can include spitting on your partner, exchanging saliva while kissing, or incorporating saliva into other sexual acts.”
That’s right, fox. Sexy brooch. We hope the mental images are already pouring in with wild abandon.Dr. Nazanin Moal(Opens in a new tab)me, psychologist, sexologist and animator of the Sexology Podcast(Opens in a new tab)adds that spitting problems can involve an exchange of saliva in many different forms, but typically manifests as one partner consensually spitting at the other without “specific limitations on the targeted body part.”
Spitting issues fall under BDSM and often involve some level of humiliation play, although this is not always the case. THE Dom can spit on the sub for many reasons, including bonding, humiliation, an interest in bodily fluids, and more. Like all things in sex, spitting issues can be played out in a million different ways and how people engage with them will depend on what they want out of the scene.
How to practice spit-play in a safe and consensual way.
If you want to get spit, there are some things you need to keep in mind to ensure your game is done ethically. Here are the three golden rules.
If you intend to spit on someone or have them spit on you, you need 100% enthusiastic consent. “While many people love the saliva, others find it to be a complete turn off. Always discuss your ons and offs with a partner before trying [anything]”, says Melancon. Determining how you want to play with this kink before trying it is very important. We all have limits.
First, you want to make sure everyone is okay with spitting before this happens.
First, you want to make sure everyone is okay with spitting before this happens. Spitting on someone without asking is a violation of their consent. Make sure everyone got off to go to Saliva Town. Boundaries with kink play should be discussed before play happens so everyone is on board and feels safe.
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If you’re playing with saliva and someone doesn’t have it or decides it doesn’t work for them at the time, you both need to be able to communicate with each other. Having a safe word can be really beneficial here. This is a non-sexual word designed to let a partner know that a limit has been reached.
Be careful with your health.
While saliva is generally safe for STIs(Opens in a new tab), you could still transmit viral infections – like a cold or COVID. If you or your partner aren’t feeling well, keep the spit game on the back burner until you’re back to 100%.
You may be wondering Oral herpes or HS1V.(Opens in a new tab) You cannot catch oral herpes through saliva. It spreads through the skin, so you should be safe. Now, since oral herpes is transmitted from skin to skin, if someone has an active cold sore, take precautions, such as avoiding oral sex and kissing.
Why do people like to spit so much during sex?
People find many things attractive about saliva during sex. “By incorporating this once-taboo act into their intimate moments, individuals can explore the boundaries and add an element of thrill to their experiences, further enhancing the appeal of this kink for those who indulge in it,” Moali said.
So, let’s break down some of the reasons people want to get wet and go wild.
Consensual D/s game
Being in the spit is inherently kinky because kink is anything outside the realm of vanilla sex. We can safely say that spitting on someone does not fall under these parameters. Spitting issues can be part of a larger dominant/submissive roleplay. Spitting on a sub can be a form of erotic humiliation and/or a way to create a deeper bond between the Dom/sub. Moali says spitting works so well in these scenes because it “can serve as a powerful symbol of authority.”
Intimacy with saliva
Brooch swapping can also be a way to create intimacy. “Saliva games like spitting in each other’s mouths can feel intimate, sharing something that’s usually kept private,” Melancon says.
Being in bodily fluids
People are turned on by my bodily fluids because we are able to eroticize almost anything. Certain types of bodily fluids can manifest as being activated by blood, piss play, sweat, and yes, spit. Melancon tells us that while, in general, we tend to view bodily fluids as unattractive (and perhaps even gross), “when sexually aroused, our disgust threshold rises and we can adopt with enjoyment of behaviors that we would find disgusting in other contexts”. Studies confirm it(Opens in a new tab).
Being wet and messy during sex
Spitting can also be a part of “wet and messy” fetishes. These include things like food play and splash … and spit! “Those who enjoy rubbing saliva on themselves, seeing a partner covered in spit, or extra sloppy kisses or blowjobs may fall into this category,” says Melancon.
Just…enjoy the feeling!
People may also salivate and/or spit up because they enjoy the feeling. The game tells us that you might like the feel of spitting on your skin, the sound of someone spitting, or the feel of it. Basically, pin tricks can be a form of sensational play (which we wrote about abundantly, just for you).
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Is it normal to spit?
Although there is a huge amount of ZERO studies on (boring) pin folds, these folds are quite common. According to research in his book, Tell me what you want,(Opens in a new tab) Dr. Justin Lehmiller found that about nine percent of participants reported spitting or being spat on during sexual activity. Play says this issue isn’t exactly mainstream per se, but it’s definitely something people love. It’s completely normal to have a pin bend. So if that worries you, don’t be.
Sexual expression is so varied that there is no easy way to pin it down.
Moali says “spitgate” may “have sparked increased discussion around this issue,” she says. “This heightened awareness has piqued the curiosity of some, leading them to realize the potential appeal of the pin game and prompting them to consider whether it fits their personal interests.”
Sexual expression is so varied that there is no easy way to pin it down. People are into what they love. And we should be more calm about it. If you’re here asking your partner to spit in your mouth, that’s fine. Be safe, communicate, and allow yourself to indulge in the things you love. Life is too short to be ashamed.